Sunday, 2 August 2015

When it Rains The Clouds Sing "Miya Ki Malhar"


After the scorching summer heat, the monsoons bring much needed relief and joy to the capital city.The best part it is the jun-july of every year the childish girl within me reminds me that I am a monsoon child.

Being a bong I cannot deny that I love Autumn.But somewhere within I am a monsoon child. The first rain, as we remembered was told to us in our even younger days, settles the dust and impurities from the sky above and should be avoided.But somehow the first rain is what I cannot resist.The  rain  drenched streets and  the dancing trees are the real monsoon delight.

Rain  drenched city and a cup of coffee never fails nomatter how hard  the day  be.

As the metro starts nearing the targetted destination , when  you  look  at  the  canvas of the sky  you will notice the clouds painting the  story of megh malhar.

Malhar symbolises a raaga of monsoon.According  to  some verses the indian  classical music and the raagas are based on  seasons and philosophy  that  relates the  season cycle with different  stages and feelings of human  life.
”Mal-har” actually means  washing  away the evil .
As I  take a  look  at the rain  drenched city a  part of my soul sings Malhar. There are many variations of Raga Malhar, and are categorised chronologically based on the era of their composition - prachina (before the 15th Century), madhyakalina (15th - 18th Century) and arvachina (19th Century and thence). Ragas Shuddha Malhar, Megh Malhar and Gaud Malhar belong to the first period
Miyan ki malhar is a variation introduced by Tansen (one of the composers in the court of the Mughal emperor Akbar), which follows the swaras: S R g m P D n N. Though Miyan ki malhar and Raga Bahar have the same tone material, the melodic movements in Miyan ki malhar are rather serious and slow, moving more in the lower tetra-chord, whereas movements in Bahar are more sprightly and centre around the high Sa.

I can  relate malhar allot to  the advent rain  the alap and prelude is a lot more serious as  it stands as a symbol of  the thunder while the melody part runs smooth and goes towards the higher notes depicting the intensity of beautiful rain.
And my heart sings
Bijuri Chamake Barase
 Meharawa Aayilo Badariya
Ka Karun Maayi Mora Jiyara Tarase  
 Ghan Garaje Ghan Bijuri Chamake
 Papiha Pee Pee Ter Sunaawe
Ka Karun Maayi Mori Jiyara Laraje

Nomatter how much  devotion  we  have  for  Indian Classical Music ,we bongs kind of fail to related  most things unless they have a strong connection  with our very own Robi Thakur’s Creation .

Whenever I  listen  to Tagore’s song Jhoro Jhoro Borishe Bari Dhara  I feel a strong touch  of  Miya ki Malhar.

ঝরঝর বরিষে বারিধারা।
হায় পথবাসী, হায় গতিহীন,   হায় গৃহহারা ॥
ফিরে বায়ু হাহাস্বরে,   ডাকে কারে জনহীন অসীম প্রান্তরে--
রজনী আঁধারে॥
অধীরা যমুনা তরঙ্গ-আকুলা অকূলা রে,   তিমিরদুকূলা রে।
নিবিড় নীরদ গগনে   গরগর গরজে সঘনে,
চঞ্চলচপলা চমকে--   নাহি শশীতারা ॥
The beauty of River Yammuna in  Monsoon  somehow remins me of a few lines  from  the song



অধীরা যমুনা তরঙ্গ-আকুলা অকূলা রে,   তিমিরদুকূলা রে।
নিবিড় নীরদ গগনে   গরগর গরজে সঘনে,

CEASELESS is THE welter of rain that wearies the sky.
Alas for the forsaken! Alas for the homeless wanderer!
The shrieks of the wind die away in sobs and sighs.
What flying phantom does it pursue across the pathless wild?
The night is hopeless like the eyes of the blind.
Alas for the forsaken! Alas for the homeless wanderer!
The waves are frantic in the river lost in the shoreless dark.
The thunder growls, the lightning flashes its teeth.
The lights of the stars are dead.
Alas for the forsaken! Alas for the homeless wanderer!
- Translated by Rabindranath Tagore


Being a monsoon  child all I can  say  is my love  for  Music and Rain  somehow dedicate this blog  to my readers .Its is just a random  feeling penned down  nothing  else .

Friday, 31 July 2015

How to befriend Kids!!!!!


Ever wondered  how  your  friend  became his baby cousin’s favourite “bhai”, “dada” or “Anna”!!! Or may  be the girl  you are dating manages to be  her baby bro’s favourite “didi”,”jiji”,”akka” or “aapa”.
I admit you  genuinely love your niece or nephew no matter ,nomatter how hard you always try to befriend the little one.You either end up getting  a headache because the little one is too naughty  to be in  control.Some times  you  can feel  that  playing or  spending time with  the little one is just not your cup  of  tea.But honestly  what you  just concluded may  not be  right always.   
    1. .A-Awesome: A For Adeventure,But  keep it in mind the adventure should be  of  the little one’s level.
Hiding  behind the cutain  will do,let the little feel  like James Bond after finding you.If a little bit of Drama  never hurts when  it comes to a girl’s lipstick  or  a guy’s spikey hair styling.Then why can’t you bear  a bit of it while playing with a baby?
 Even if you can find out the little one in a second ,pretend that you are finding it  difficult .Trust me  the  baby  can  only  befriend you  when  it is assured that you  belong to  the same  mental  category.

      
           2.  The Don’t Factor: Cuddling  te cutipie is fun getting  them angry can  be sweet some times  but  avoid it.This not only  distant you  from  the kiddo  but  will  make him/her stubborn too.


      

     3.Be the do –gooder: For infants  reaching height is a huge  thing and  once you  help them  do  that will make you  their favourite.

   
    4.The protector  Ninja: Save  the kiddo  from  Papa-Mumma’s anger  and  the kiddo’s already your  fan.Protect the little one from the  kindergarten’s naughtiest lad that bullies them and you  will not only  earn their trust ,but they will love you  unconditionally.

     
               5.Taking Interest: Instead of pulling their  leg watch  their favourite cartoon  with  them,bring  them  their  favourite animation  cd.Download  cartoons for  them  and  appreciate their  favourite toy if you  want to  befriend them.


       
      6.Discover: Every Baby’s got some unique  zone of  interest like Music  ,Dance,Craft,Drawing and acting  


     discover that  and try to  make  arrangement to  groom  that  .






Friday, 3 July 2015

13Things You Should Know about People who do not open up much



Things You Should Know about People who is not much of an open book:
1. If you are interested on taking your friendship to the next level ,try to understand
one small thing.He/She entered your life as a friend your friendship
is the pillar the relationship you are planning is standing on.So never
let the friendship go weak.

2.People who hardly open up to many if opens up to you kindly respect that.
Honestly no matter how awesome you are even if guys are during to date you or girls
are waiting with open arms and during to be taken by you,a person who hardly open up
chose you to open up is a big achievement. Ignoring that is initially hurting
that persons feeling but actually making a full of yourself. He/She chose you
and if you loose that you are as dumb as the one who missed a
Diamond as he was busy collecting Peebles.

3.Complaining would not solve the problem but cause repulsion instead.
People who hardly open up takes time to open up.Give them time
to realise that you are included in their comfort zone.Even if they love you ,you guys are
in a relationship, complaining won't help much.Adjust with the fact that they don't share much.Trust them,studies have proven that people who open up less have been victims of misunderstandings but cheating is a rare case for them.Wait for them to realise you are the one worth sharing.

4.Difficult part is if you are close to such people you are left with no other option but to
sharpen your observation.You never know what's on their wishlist .May be just to know about their favourite perfume you got to Google a lot about fragrance and initiate a conversation .I have seen guys gathering knowledge about lipsticks just because their girl friends preference is not on their knowledge list.I have seen girls reading about fabrics and googling a lot just to find the kind of shirt her guy would prefer.

5. Communication is certainly your responsibility. He/she would definitely cooperate but they are never taking the initiative first.If you can emerse your bozo ego in the water of holy Ganges ,one thing you can be sure of.You are getting rewarded with a good companion for life time.

6.They would never clearly convey their insecurities .Yes ,u are not necessarily an astrology expert or mind reader.But if you can't atleast understand the person you love or you think you love then it is quite difficult o carry on .The only solution to this problem is do not do anything knowingly that is making him/her insecure. Avoid the friend who is poking you to play mind games with her/him.Mind games are not only make distance between you people but would loose his /her trust.

7. If you are serious about him/her cut off every link you have with your ex or used to be crushing over peepz.These people are the last people to take these shit.People who open up less are people who are blind believers of clarity. They usually hold lots of p patience in a relationship. That is the reason once they break up they cut of every freaking strings attached. They certainly expect their partners to be bold minded like them.They would speak it right on your face that they hate your exes clinging on.If you are not using the broom sticks to get shit of past cleared,you are clearly loosing the crystal clear present you have.Yes,true you got get rid of past if you can't spare him/her of the stupid confused human you are.

8.Believe it ,they care for you .Even if they are not showing off they do.If they aren't there are reasons you got to find out.People who hardly open up usually need a lot of public validation. They need to be assured that you are proud to be his/her.Be it social networks ,Facebook, or when you meet some friends give them the validation they deserve,they would take any risk to keep you happy.But if you know what they want and you are quite avoiding it.You may think you are not a show of person.What is your family members ,friends etc thinking? Trust me they actually are confident person and know the fact that they don't deserve to be kept a secret.They know pretty well that there are many who might love to be committed with them.So if you are presenting family or friends as alibi you are making them a scope to look down upon them.Literally you are avoiding the show of or maintain the secret for these people .And people who can't accept them are dumb by genes.

9.They are never fashion disasters. They might appear simple.May be the guy you are dating is not dressing up his best when catching up for a movie.Or your girl is wearing a simple shirt and denim with minimal makeup when she is going for a lunch date with you.But trust me these kind of people won't ddisappoint you one you Friend's marriage reception party or some party you are attending as a couple.

10.The best part.They are not dating your social status,bank balance or talent.They are dating you.They are indifferent whether its a roll corner chit chat with you or the town's best restaurant. They are not much hesitating to hit you place when you ac is not working.Their "date affections" are not much affected by the fact whether you reach them with chocolates,flowers or some expensive gifts

11.Buying them gifts can be a big deal.They usually like stuffs that are uncommon. If you are trying to catch their attention by gifting. Then a clear and vivid communication with them regarding gifts they like or hate is necessary.

12.They understand that you can remain busy.One thing about them is they usually get to know when communication gap is really duty busy schedule or intentional.Better don't do that because that is creating a gamer impression which you may not be.

13.Lear to take interest if you guy/girl is blessed with some creative hobby like recitation, poetry writing, music ,Painting or ballet. They love it when you are genuinely interested to explore their creative world.And if taking interest in creative world pains UR ass just assure them that may be it is not your cup of tea but you respect their talent.For heaven sake don't fake it.Faking would add another laughable cartoon creature to their list of"feed my humour ".

Thursday, 2 July 2015

Our Giveaway



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