Tuesday 22 March 2016

You are Special regardless of any validation ,Trust me!

You are depressed ,sad and what not .Reason you partner is not really proud to have you.Not really as proud as your parents are.You are too matured for constant high school sweatheart PDAs  ,a lil bit of it? I mean some occational PDAs really revives  the spark is’nt it?More than everything else you want to feel special and need the world to know how you get treated. But may be your partner is not much into all these.Your bff suggested you to stay satisfied with the fact that you found some one loyal that’s all.

Wake up , You are much more than average and you barely deserve to settle for anything less or average.You smartest friend suggested a break and you are just too afraid to go for it.
Let me tell you one thing, did your parents required anything to be proud of you?
No !!!!! Performance is a second factor they were always proud of you, of every little achievement you ever secured. Hard work is not a result of their pressure, those happy faces ,gesture of pride is all you wanted to preserve all your life and thus you worked hard .You know why I spoke so much about parents here? Just to help you get the paradox, why do you need to prove anything to your partner? If the person is not the one  to take an initiative to show u off  to the world ,why do you need to keep trying?
I often see my friends going to malls and buying clothes of their husband’s or boyfriends favourite color.Some started to change their parting patern ,may be  Mr. boyfriend finds the face prettier the otherway .One thing I truelly wanna ask  these bimbos ,does he asks you befor going for a hair cut?
Lemme come  to boys  now, trust me  their situation is more pathetic. One of my friend is wearing girlie shades ore these days .His janu’s a pinkaholic.One of them left gym and opted for yoga and is on the verge of living all his life depending on green.Thank god the green revolution happened bro! One of my senior reads vogue and filmfare  these days , even beauty blogs actually his girl friend finds him worth less coz he failed to diffenrentiate between two shades of pink to different ambassadors of a leading cosmetic brand were sporting.Some of them get the news paper and check their partners horoscope first.
And whats the outcome????? At the end of the day that particular partner would be a sport with every PDA with their life’s every existant member ,but you? Nope !!! because some public display action over any social media makes them answerable!!!! Nothing  else does ,but if it involves you!!! I  am telling you you Mr/Miss someone is answerable.
You partner will never be interested to share or show of your skill or atleast aknowledge them in public.Forget it ,no one other than parents does that.Yes keep it in mind that if they cannot do what parents can,they do not have rights to enjoy the same priorities in your life too.
Today it feels like, “Everybody else loves my work ,but the person I love is least bothered”and they always have an answer “I love you for  the person you are and not your performance”. Again is the same person really tolerant with your, tantrum, behavior and flaws . No!!!!! they keep complaining that too. Honestly when the whole circle praises you, its their intentional motive to over look and ignore your achievement talent and quality.
They best thing that can solve this situation can only happen when you fully want it.The only thing you can do about such situation is .Stop over thinking and give time to activies you are good at. Make your own world a world outside college or office , a world outside his/her pals or common ones.Not even a world where your or their realtives are involved. Stay away from infatuation factor from either side if you can make that circle.Do not encourage such feelings out there ,trust me that way they can never blame you on  trust issue.
Encourage , busy schedule lots of activities .Trust me,work and work pressure heals  every thing. If you have no time to  think how will you even over think.

Be honest and loyal to you work.I am not saying  do not give time to your partner ,but if you become busy with work trust me there would never exist issue to worry about.Giving that particular less time saves it all,your partner might complain about it first.Later on will learn to understand that you have a life of your own  too and your partner is lucky to have your time. Both of you will learnt to respect each other better.Both of you will be able to revive that old spark ,because lack of time will kill that taken for granted factor.